By Gwendolyn Baines | SPECIAL TO SACOBSERVER.COM

Dear Gwendolyn:
I have a problem. Two months ago I went to a nightclub with some of my girlfriends and while they were dancing, a man came and sat at my table. He went through the usual. He asked my name and if I had come with someone. I told him I was there with some other ladies, but basically I considered myself to be alone. After a nice conversation, he asked if I wanted to go to a restaurant. He knew the perfect place to have breakfast. I agreed, however, the plan changed. We ended up going to his place. He cooked breakfast and we watched movies until the middle of the day. We were both so sleepy, we went to bed. We got up during the early part of the evening, showered and he took me home. My friends were upset because they didn't know what happened to me. They were about to put in a missing person report. They had tried to call me on my cell phone, but it was off. This is the problem: We became intimate. I have not heard from him and it is driving me crazy. I believe I am in love with this man. Should I call him?
Alicia

Dear Robert:
Before giving my opinion, I want to point out some danger actions you made. First of all, you should not have left the group. When females go out, they should go as a group and return as a group. There should be no straying. For your knowledge, the man you exited with could have been a psychopath - a hater of women who seem loose. Secondly, instead of taking you to a restaurant, he took you to his place which could not have been his place. You may feel badly about this for a long time. While dealing with the situation, have yourself tested and hope you are negative for pregnancy and HIV. You need to think sensibly at this time. If you test positive for either, then a call is in order. If you do not exercise reasonable self-care and self-respect, you cannot expect someone else to do so. But know this: If you call, he may not - remember your name.

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