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By George E. Curry
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(NNPA) - The Tiger
Woods’ women count is up to 20. That’s the number
of women who haven't gone to bed with the world’s busiest
golfer. Until now, I have managed to stay away from this subject.
But in many ways, the reaction to Tiger’s fall from
grace says more about us as a society than Woods’ personal
problems.
First, Tiger Woods should be viewed
for what he is: A great athlete. And the unending skank-of-the
day disclosures cannot alter that reality. In fact, the Associated
Press just crowned him Athlete of the Decade.
If we’ve learned anything
over the years, it should have been that athletes and entertainers
in particular make poor role models. If you’re looking
for good role models, turn to the men who take the time to
mentor young boys, the women who head Girl Scout troops and
the men and women who try to live by what they teach in Sunday
School. If you were looking for Tiger Woods to be your role
model, you were looking in the wrong place.
The disclosure that Woods had
cheated on his wife a time or two, or three, or four, or whatever
number, led some people to feel personally betrayed. Mind
you, these people have never met Tiger Woods, they have never
spoken with him on the telephone and they didn’t receive
any of the numerous text messages he had been evidently sending
out.
Is Tiger a hypocrite? Unquestionably.
But that’s something he’ll have to explain to
his God, not to people he doesn’t know exist.
Talking heads on cable TV and
talk radio are treating Woods’ transgressions –
his word, not mine – as though professional athletes
in the past haven’t violated their marriage vows. Do
the names Magic Johnson and Kobe Bryant ring a bell?
But let’s not just pick
on professional athletes. Let me refresh your recollection
about some other high-profiled violations:
- Eliot Spitzer was forced to resign as governor of New
York last year after it was disclosed that he patronized
a prostitution service while serving as the state’s
attorney general and as governor. His most publicized tryst
occurred at the Mayflower Hotel in Washington, D.C. on February
13, 2008 with a 22-year-old from New York. According to
federal authorities, he paid the prostitute $4,300 in cash,
which included a $1,100 deposit for future service.
- The wife of South Carolina Gov. Mark Standford moved
out of the governor’s mansion and filed for divorce
this month after learning that her husband had a rendezvous
with Maria Belen Chapur, whom he described as his Argentinean
lover and soul mate.
- President Bill Clinton barely escaped being kicked out
of office after it was disclosed that he had a sexual relationship
with Monica Lewinsky, a 22-year-old White House intern.
After months of denying the liaison, Clinton finally acknowledged
the relationship to a grand jury on Aug. 17, 1998.
- Pressured by DNA test results, former Democratic presidential
candidate John Edwards was forced to admit this year that
he fathered a child with Rielle Hunter, his mistress and
a former campaign worker. His wife was bravely fighting
cancer at the time.
- Rev. Jesse L. Jackson, Sr., a married father of five,
had a daughter outside of his marriage a decade ago with
Karin L. Stanford, director of the Washington bureau of
Jackson’s Rainbow PUSH Coalition.
- Larry Craig, a Republican senator from Idaho, was arrested
for lewd conduct in a men’s restroom at the Minneapolis-St.
Paul International Airport. He pleaded guilty in 2007 to
a lesser charge of disorderly conduct.
The names of at least 50 others could be added to the list
if space permitted. But I am sure that by now you get the
point.
Woods’ critics, directly and indirectly, point to
the race of his mistresses.
Under the headline, “Tiger Saga Widens his distance
from Blacks,” Jesse Washington, a reporter for the Associated
Press, quotes Denene Millner, author of several books on Black
relationships: “We’ve discussed this for years
among black women. Why is it when they get to this level…they
tend to go directly for the nearest blonde?”
Woods, the son of an African-American father and Thai mother,
has never prided himself on being Black. He coined the term
“Cablinasian,” to reflect what he calls his Caucasian,
Black, Indian and Asian heritage. No one should be surprised
that most of his mistresses look like Elin Nordegren, his
Swedish wife. And nor should anyone consider it an honor if
he had cheated on his wife with Black women. Or, with any
other women for that matter.
Tiger Woods’ wounds were self-inflicted and it didn’t
help any that his initial statement had more holes in it than
a golf course. But there is simply too much interest in what
did or did not happen in his home. People should get a life
instead of being obsessed with Tiger’s.
George E. Curry, former editor-in-chief of Emerge magazine
and the NNPA News Service, is a keynote speaker, moderator,
and media coach. He can be reached through his Web site, www.georgecurry.com
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